For years, folks were sold a dream: work hard until 65, retire, grab your pension, collect Social Security, and live the good life in sunny Florida.
Let me keep it real—that picture is outdated. Retirement at 65 is no longer a guarantee. For most people, it’s not even realistic.
I tell my clients all the time: “Retirement isn’t an age —it’s a financial number. You don’t retire because you’re 65. You retire when your money works harder than you do.”
Longevity Changed the Game
People are living longer. Retirement could last 20–30 years. Think about that. You might spend as many years retired as you did working.
The problem? Most people don’t have a plan for income that lasts that long. They assume Social Security will cover it. It won’t. They assume Medicare will keep them healthy. It won’t cover everything.
“If your money doesn’t outlast you, you’re not retired—you’re just unemployed.”
Generations See Retirement Differently
Boomers had pensions, government promises, and strong Social Security benefits. Many of those safety nets don’t exist anymore.
Gen X? We got the short end. Broken pensions, layoffs, rising divorce rates, and the responsibility of raising kids while supporting aging parents. That forced Gen X to be skeptical, self-reliant, and more cautious.
Younger generations? They’re not even banking on Social Security being around. And honestly, they’re smart not to.
“Don’t plan your future on broken promises. Plan your future on what you can control—saving, investing, and creating multiple income streams.”
Delaying Retirement:
Not Ready, Not Willing
A lot of people are pushing retirement back. Why? They don’t have enough saved. Others keep working because their job is tied to their identity.
That’s the new reality: many people will “retire” into part-time work, side hustles, or projects that bring both purpose and income.
“Work in retirement isn’t always about need. Sometimes it’s about purpose. But don’t confuse working because you want to with working because you have to.”
The Squeeze on Gen X
I call it the Sandwich Struggle. Gen X is caught between helping aging parents who are running out of money and still supporting grown kids. That makes retirement feel more like a dream than a plan.
If you’re in Gen X, you already know: you’ll probably work longer than you thought. The key is making those years count by building assets that pay you back.
Denial is Dangerous
Here’s the cold truth—most people don’t have a retirement plan. Some won’t even look at the numbers.
“Hope is not a retirement plan. Denial is not a retirement strategy. Ignoring the problem won’t make it go away.”
You’ve got to face the facts, even if it’s ugly. Look at your savings. Look at your debt. If you don’t like what you see, good —that means it’s time to change.
Retirement Pitfalls
People Walk Into
Underestimating Costs: Folks think they’ll spend less in retirement. Reality? Most spend the same or more—especially in the early years with travel, hobbies, or helping family.
Lack of Communication: Couples avoid money talks. Then secrets, hidden debts, or misunderstandings blow up.
Fear of Spending: Some folks hoard money because they’re scared of outliving it. That’s not freedom—that’s bondage.
“Retirement is supposed to give you freedom, not fear. If you’re too scared to spend the money you saved, you’re not living—you’re just existing.”
The Real Goal: Income,
Not Just Assets
I teach this everywhere I go: retirement isn’t about how big your 401(k) balance looks. It’s about income you can count on.
Now, annuities get a lot of attention because they offer predictable income for life. Sounds good, right? But here’s the catch:
You’re trading a large lump sum for a guaranteed check.
Once you hand that money to the insurance company, it’s no longer liquid.
When you die, that money is gone—you can’t pass it down to your kids or grandkids.
That’s the cost of annuities. Predictability, yes. Legacy, no.
That’s why I’m a proponent of the 4 Percent Rule. If you build a diversified portfolio of investments and withdraw 4 percent annually, you create a steady stream of income while preserving your principal.
Example: A $1,000,000 nest egg generates about $40,000 a year without eating away at the base.
With market growth, your income adjusts for inflation, and your principal has the potential to keep growing.
When you’re gone, your loved ones inherit the assets.
“Annuities buy you a paycheck, but they rob your family of inheritance. The 4 percent Rule gives you both — income while you live and legacy when you’re gone.”
Social Security: Don’t Rely On It
I’ll keep it blunt: don’t depend on Social Security to save you. It’ll still be around in some form, but betting your entire retirement on it? That’s financial suicide.
“If Social Security shows up, that’s gravy. But don’t build your retirement on gravy. Build it on meat and potatoes —your own money, your own plan.”
Damon’s Retirement Playbook
Here’s what I tell every client:
Create a money snapshot. List your assets, debts, and income streams. Put it all on one page.
Build a real plan. If you can’t explain your retirement plan in plain English, you don’t have one.
Talk about money. With your spouse. With your kids. Avoidance creates messes later. Transparency builds legacies.
Retirement at 65 ain’t guaranteed. It’s not a birthright. It’s earned.
You don’t retire with age. You retire with preparation. You retire when your money produces enough income to cover your expenses and lifestyle—whether that’s 55, 65, or 75.
So stop chasing the myth. Face your reality. Make your money work.
“If you don’t control your money, your money will control you—even in retirement.”
(Damon Carr, Money Coach & Tax Pro can be reached at 412-216-1013 or visit his website at www.damonmoneycoach.com)
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